It is what It is...

It's a phrase I use often and one that was impressioned upon me while in graduate school with learning the process of therapy. It's mostly out of the post-modern movement but I've found so much wisdom from it as well for my spiritual walk with God. I'd encourage anyone reading to remember it and to apply it to those times when your own understanding fails. "It is what it is..." and then learn from that moment.

Acceptance with hope and repentance of our own wrongs is part of the beautiful movement forward. I think about the encounters I have at work with people continually and the encounters I have with my husband and children.

My friend Melanie Shipps has stated, "The secret to happiness and peace is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be, and then making the best of it."

When we work full-time and witness our own tragedies or that of others, it is so important to keep in mind to simply be present with that person or even our own selves. We can only do so much, we can only be so much to other people and for other people. We are only finite. It's not about performing, doing what we think we "should" do or even what others "might" think we should do. It is what it is...leave it, let it go, move forward, give grace and do the best you can in that moment. God gives grace to you if you believe in the moment for the moment. He will equip, he will move and you will be better for it.

Working full-time lends to situations that I cannot control at times for my family because I am not with them. I can do my best to make sure that my opinions and preferences are known to childcare but that's doesn't mean that it will happen. I can express to my husband all my wants or needs or even have him express his to me but that doesn't mean that time will allow for me to prioritize them always as first. Life happens, deadlines or rather "alivelines" as Kelly Rae Roberts says, happen. Bad snack days at school and behavior days happen. Burning supper happens or the slow cooker meal I planned the week before didn't thaw out overnight since it was a freezer meal-kind of thing happens. I didn't pack the right clothes and shoes for childcare. Etc...etc...etc...but life is life. You may not have the career you wanted by now or the possessions or even number of children you wanted. It is what it is... take comfort in that and make the best of it. Somewhere else in our world something else is going on and you are blessed.